How do you break away from your abuser when he has ultimate control no matter?

He will go to EXTREME measures to gain control and when I mean extreme Its bad way beyond what I ever imagined possiable.How do you break away from your abuser when he has ultimate control no matter?
Its hard, but get the hell out. Go somewhere safe. I was in an abusive relationship for 4 years and I'm only 20. It won't get better. If he is physically abusing you and threatening your life when you try to get away, then you really need to get away. I didn't leave for a long time because I was afraid that he would kill me and my family. If its that bad for you you need to find a women's shelter or go to a relatives house that's as far away as you can get as fast as you can get there. If you have any kids or pets its harder to get away. If you have a pet that he is threatening to kill, as hard as it may be get away when you can and leave the pet if you have to.





Is it worth your life? Unless children are involved then the answer should be no. Just leave as soon as possible. tell your family that he is abusing you. let people know that he is hurting you. I didn't tell anyone either because I was afraid and I felt stupid and I felt like it was my fault. it isn't your fault. you don't deserve it. get out of there. I don't know you but I am honestly worried about you. evilxevelyn@yahoo.com





E-mail me and I can try to help you in anyway that I can.How do you break away from your abuser when he has ultimate control no matter?
Sounds like your in a bad spot. Are there children involved? You need to have a plan. Try getting a holed of the safe shelter in your area. They are equip with the means to help you escape from said person. They will hide you and help you work threw financial difficulties. Help with clothing food and counseling to help you understand its not you but the abuser who has a problem. Good Luck Tomorrow is Monday its a good day to say goodbye to that life. Move as fast as you can!!!!
You pack-up what you can carry and when he leaves for work you leave so you you can save your life, there are web sites that will guide you step by step on how to change your identity or any possible changes to get you out of the position your in .Dont hesitate your life may well be in serious danger. Take care of yourself
He doesn't have ultimate control. He has convinced you that he has. You do need help though. Do what you need to get out. There are organizations that will help.
I agree with Sparkydog, get out and keep people around you and tell anyone who will listen what is going on. He doesn't own you, and if he sees he can't intimidate you, there is a slim chance he will back off. If you have a battered woman's shelter were you life, go there, they can tell you what to do, and they don't tell anyone you are there if they inquire.
What's you phone number. I will call you and then call some one to get you out of this as soon as possible.
You need OUT.





I got out by packing a little backpack and waiting til my abuser was asleep from an all night drunk after kicking me around a bit. I walked down the road and never turned back. He had me completely isolated, so there was no phone, etc., and he had the keys. I walked several miles to town on a back road, and then called for a ride from a friend, got dropped off at a mall 2 hours away, called a friend there, got dropped off at a motel, caught a bus to the airport in SF, and flew 500 miles to my family he had isolated me from. Did he show up? YEP! About a week later. But we were ready for him. All my big burly nephews were standing by me, and he left. I was finally at peace when he passed away 2 years ago.





It's different for everyone, and you'll have to do it your own way...but do it.
well what i learned when i finally got out of a situation like that was that i should have told somebody. no one knew. they didn't find out until i had to call them to say that i was going to jail for defending myself and then i had to admit what was happening. so tell someone NOW. the more people that know, the more options you have for help. i would say get a restraining order but they can only do something to him when he breaks it but by then it's usually too late. get help, tell everyone you can and get the hell out. then try a restraining order, he may be hesitant to do anything with others around you.
Contact a branch of the Susan B Anthony Project, or similar


organization. They will help you.
i was in the same situation a few yrs back. he did things to me that would make your skin crawl i had to pack up what fews things i could and left state. honey i know you are scared but you need to get away from him. Go to the police they will help you.don't be embrassed this is not your fault. email me at soulmate62103a@yahoo.com messgner ID is soulmate62103a contact me anytime we can talk .
extremely blow his head off
Is he a father or a boss of yours? If yes, better ask help to someone whom you think u can trust most. Don't do it by yourself alone, the situation might get worst %26amp; you might be in big trouble. Ask help ASAP.