How do you let go of regrets about the past and resentments at things you have no control over?

I have totally been there. I could not forgive for a long time until God helped me realize how much I myself had been forgiven by God. It begins when we realize that Jesus died for all of us and He forgives us ALL and we must forgive as we are forgiven. Not easy, but possible through His Grace. Same with regrets, we must forgive ourselves as well. Ephesians 2:8,9How do you let go of regrets about the past and resentments at things you have no control over?
Try to tap into your universal cosmic mind and then look at your regrets and resentments, from a universal scale, in doing that I find that while there maybe no justfication for what's happened in this 3 dimensional plane of existence we live in, on a higher level, most likely dimensional planes 5 through 9, you'll be able to see that what's happened was bound by something greater than yourself and you'll begin to see the steps of how your universal symphonic blood line has affected the descisions you've made in this life.How do you let go of regrets about the past and resentments at things you have no control over?
Regret: Forgive yourself, and try to find something positive that came out of the situation.





Resentment over something beyond your control: Realize that it was beyond your control, and that while you may or may not have handled the situation differently, there's no use harboring negativity.





Our past mistakes are what enable us to better ourselves, if we choose to learn from the experiences. It's much healthier to focus on that which we can change, as long as we resolve to handle that change with as much grace and poise as possible.
Don't exert energy trying to let them go. Acknowledge when you are resentful and get good and pissed. Whack a pillow with a tennis racket 50 times really hard, scream in the shower, go out and run, lift weights and then direct your energy to something you like that keeps you busy. Decide not to be a satellite and revolve around that issue. Be a satellite to something much larger. You are too close to it. Start doing two new things for yourself. Do what I suggested when you feel the anger. But then you need to get done with it and get interested in something else...another way to build MOMENTUM with things that uplift you. He's a macho bastard who needs help himself and you aren't likely the one he'll accept it from. Read chapter 8 in The Celestine Prophecy (it must be good if I still remember). You will eventually come out of this thing stronger. You say you have no control over it, yet you really are still trying to control the situation. That is what regret IS. This is a lesson in surrender for you. You are very close to fully realizing that.
Forgiveness is giving up all hope of a better past.





The serenity prayer also works - I've used it lotsa times.


Change what you can; accept what you can't.





Of course, you could 'work through' these things by actually looking at them and giving them lotsa attention for a limited period after which you'll wash your hands and never allow it to gain your attention again in a serious way.


~
citizen ;-)





it depends entirely on the situation


but usualyl, withmost of mine, i have matrued, learned and now understand most of them, and so i dont have any real anger, resentment or anythign else, i just accept it, and im more into changing and being a better person than having regrets and allowing them to affect me badly





you either change it , or you dont


either way you have to accept its happend and move on
Alicia is right. Focus on the learning potential of the situation, and cherish that it made you into the being you are now, at that instant. Then turn toward the future and incorporate that lesson into your outlook on life.
Listen to Piaf.
Realize that you are draining your precious energy when you dwell in the past or fret about the future. Living in the now brings the most peace.
Focus on something else, and let time dim the memory of it.
I agree with everyone on here. Forgive yourself and move forward hun.
My friend told me that ';You should never regret anything that you have done because how would you learn from your mistakes';. next time you just know not to do it again.