I have no control over him what do I do?

People say no one should have control in the relationship but truth is people do. He has all of it. I used to threaten to leave and then that wud give me control. He says he's sure he wants to be with me but now when I threaten to leave he says do whatever is going to make you happy. How can I get a some control back? He doesn't seem to want to jump thru any hoops for me not even simple stuff.I have no control over him what do I do?
It's your attitude. All that control stuff is some straight bull. It's what abusive, unhealthy relationships are built on. You both need to learn that you should not try to control each other! It's unnatural and wrong. That's why things aren't working out. That's pretty sick and sadistic if you think about it. Why don't you both try some R-E-S-P-E-C-T instead of C-O-N-T-R-O-L. I'm sure it woud work much better for you both. If you're both too immature to realize that, don't be in relationship at all. Control yourselves, not each other!I have no control over him what do I do?
It doesn't sound like an healthy relationship when you both have to play Games to communicate your needs. The best thing to do would be to have a period of seperation with no contact between you both and then decide how you feel. It happened to me I was with a boy who liked to play Games and I played them to until one day he stayed at his mums and I was able to stand back and realise what a control freak he was and how insecure he was for playing his games. Life's too short for this crap. Forget him and find someone who will love you when you are both ready and grown up enough to have an Adult relationship.
In a similar situation, i just did the same thing back. When you are putting in 200% of the effort and they aren't its tends to get weary. So after a while I just developed the same attitude and when they realized I cared just as little about the relationship as they did they straightened up their act. Worst case scenario the relationship will end which means its ran its course anyways. . .
Sounds like dude doesn't care if you're in his corner or not. Someone like this turns you on? Do you think you're not worthy of someone else? Your demand for control sounds like a game to him. Ultimatums are just words (verbal or written). If you really wanna leave him, leave. If he thinks your bluffin', he'll be back for you, but you have to be strong than this too. Prove you've got control by walkin' out of this. But, if you really want to stay with him, take his sh!t. Live through this.
if he has control over the relationship then youlve allowed it to get this way especially by crying wolf . if your not happy just leave really leave and if your not going to then set some ground rules for things he might be doing thhat are wrong. if he doesnt budge then its its your choice to stay and be miserable or leave and be happy.
You can control him by not giving him some, new attitude, start acting like you dont care. Change your looks to how he is not use 2 seeing you. Start looking more attractive 2 the point when other guys r trying 2 holler at you. I bet he will start getting jealous and always stay around you. YOU have control you just got 2 know how 2 use it.
i know i was like this with my boyfriend, till i really left him beleive me he will come crowling back, but just be strong and leave him for a little while, u find anything that will get ur mind off him, just get busy and never call him, he is doing this becuase he knows that u cant leave him, prove him wrong..
easy be urself dont listen to him do watever u want. if he want something from u dont give it to him unless u want to .dont threat him u hav to make him feel the same way u feel that u can be controled as he do.if u want to leave him dont told him just leave. beleive me he will make ur life misereble . he will delete all wat u r now so u hav to stop him . just be urself stop pretending to please him
Dump him and find somebody else. If he's that uncaring about you leaving him, he either doesn't actually care, knows you're bluffing, or is already riding somebody else but isn't man enough to break it off with you.
Don't worry about having control over him. If thats all you are focusing on, boys are never gonna want to go out with you. Just focus on the relationship and how to make your love stronger. Remember, you are both equal.
This is the case of the boy who cried wolf. The first few times you threatened to leave he believed you. Now he knows you're bluffing. If he really doesn't care if you do leave then he isn't worth trying to keep. Or ';control';.
If you do have control over him, you won't be attracted to him anymore. It's trying to control him that's so exciting for you.
Sounds like you've been playing too many games. You hear ';i'm leaving'; enough. People stop caring. And maybe even want you to go. Relationships aren't about control and jumping through flaming hoops all day, stop jerking him around.
stop threatening...


if you wanna leave, then Leave, but threatening to do it and then NOT doing it makes you look stupid...


he has no control over you, control is just an illusion...
He finally realized that you're not going anywhere.
I dont think you should be trying to control him thats probbably why he said do what makes you happy :(
I would say he's a lot smarter than you are. Now go and figure out why.
there are alot of fish in the sea go fishing.
dump him and move on...what's the big deal