because i really don't, should i just come to terms with the fact that i don't, maybe over some things but some things i don't.I feel like i have no control over my life?
You best get control, or go through the rest of your life being lead by a ring in your nose.I feel like i have no control over my life?
You have absolutely no control over your life, but you can control things in your life. For example, you can avoid certain situations, your actions do matter, and you have to watch out for what you don't see coming.
If you just decide you have no control over the events in your life, that decision right there is already changing its outcome.
But what is the need to control? And how can one control? Life is so vast that we can only be controlled; we cannot be the controllers.
The fear arises because you ask the impossible. The fear arises because you ask something which is not possible at all, which is not in harmony with the real. How can you control things? Just think of the immensity, the tremendous vastness of existence, and of how everything is so interconnected. How can you control it?
These are the two attitudes. The non-religious attitude is somehow to control, somehow to manipulate, somehow to dominate, somehow to boss. The religious attitude is understanding -- seeing the fact that the total is so vast and you are so tiny that even to say tiny seems to be too big... almost a non-being.
Even a drop is bigger. If you compare a drop with the ocean, and you compare a man with the totality, the drop is tremendously bigger than man -- proportionately, relatively. Man is not even a drop in this totality. Just think of a drop of water trying to control the ocean. And we are not even that! So fear arises.
But you are creating the fear -- it is your interpretation. A religious man is unafraid, fearless. Not that he is brave -- no. He is unafraid because he has dropped that whole nonsense of controlling. He allows himself to be controlled. A religious man is possessed by the whole. He says, 'I am nobody, so take possession of me and lead me wheresoever you will. Thy will be done. Thy kingdom come.'
That 'thy' is not a tiny god sitting somewhere, as christians think, with a crown on his head, on a golden throne with foolish angels all around
That 'thy' is this totality. There is no throne and no crown, no monarch, no king -- nothing: no king and no kingdom. That 'thy' is this vastness, this immenseness of existence ... this isness that surrounds you out and in, within and without. How can you try to control it? What are you asking?
Fear will arise... death will follow you like a shadow, because you know one day or other you will have to fall down and disappear.
But a religious man, in deep prayer, accepts even death. He says, 'I am just a wave. It was your play to have me. I am here, but when you are finished with the game I will retire. I will go back to sleep, deep sleep, into the ocean. Whenever you need me you can raise me again. I will be ready, but it is none of my business to bother about.' That's how one becomes fearless.
So just see the point -- and float, flow, and a deep relaxation will come to you. will surround vou. Your whole being will become graceful, because when there is no fear one is graceful. Then there is no dichotomy. There is no fight, no struggle... one simply accepts. One is in total acceptance. Just try to see that.
And if you want to be afraid, then it is okay. If you choose, then it is okay, otherwise there is no need. You live in total relaxation. Not trying, you become so calm and quiet. But just a tiny part struggling, the old taste continues, haunts you. One has to resist that. The ego enjoys fighting very much -- struggling, conquering. Drop that ego! Drop fighting and the ego drops.
People ask, 'How can we drop the ego?' They are asking again for a new fight. They say, 'How can we drop the ego? How can we fight this ego? Then again another ego will arise -- the ego of the humble man, the ego of the simple man, the ego of one who has renounced; religious, prayerful -- but the ego will arise again. And the second ego is going to be more subtle than the first, more poisonous, because it is more pious. And when poison becomes pious, of course it becomes more dangerous.
So simply look at the fact and float... and accept, mm? Then see what happens.
None of us really have control. Surrender to life and let it live through you. Easier said then done, with the ego being in control.
Go ahead and read Robin Sharma's book.....m sure you'll have control over your life..
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
If a ex hates you for something you had no control over how to you work this out?
I was at a friend house one night and went to bed when I woke up my ex left messages on my phone saying she hates me and never wants to hear from me again she. One of my friends called and called her nasty names and made nasty threats she thought I put them up to this. I didn't have anything to do with this I don't know how to apologize to her i would like to have some relationship with this person but I want them to know I never and never would put my fiends up to this.If a ex hates you for something you had no control over how to you work this out?
.So YOUR friends got spiteful with you ex.Don't you think you should get the lame brains who caused this problem,to sort it out.Even an ex deserves respect (sometimes)If a ex hates you for something you had no control over how to you work this out?
honestly just call her and talk to her ...but you don't have to be great friends with your ex. Just let her know you had nothing1 to do with it
.So YOUR friends got spiteful with you ex.Don't you think you should get the lame brains who caused this problem,to sort it out.Even an ex deserves respect (sometimes)If a ex hates you for something you had no control over how to you work this out?
honestly just call her and talk to her ...but you don't have to be great friends with your ex. Just let her know you had nothing1 to do with it
Is there any particular good birth control with no bad side effects?
i have been on pills (different kinds) and they give me bad headaches,... but i have had the patch once,.. but stopped,.. now im spotting and there are new researchs that say they are causing health issues. Both pill and patch!!Is there any particular good birth control with no bad side effects?
You might like to try a Family Planning Clinic %26amp; look at the different options available. There are intra uterine devices and other means (eg cap). I do hope you find something workable for you soon. UKIs there any particular good birth control with no bad side effects?
Absolutely.
It's called Abstinence.
Works 100% every time!
You might like to try a Family Planning Clinic %26amp; look at the different options available. There are intra uterine devices and other means (eg cap). I do hope you find something workable for you soon. UKIs there any particular good birth control with no bad side effects?
Absolutely.
It's called Abstinence.
Works 100% every time!
Spiritually speaking, why do people assume that we as humans have no self-control?
Like people believing that a priest's celibacy makes it inevitable that he would want to molest a child, or that it is not in the nature of sub-Saharan Africans to practice sexual chastity.Spiritually speaking, why do people assume that we as humans have no self-control?
I think many say that because they dont want to take responsibility of their actions. Saying that everyone needs sex is a lie.Many many people live happy celibate lives and are not missing anything. Also just to point out that being celibate does not make one a pedophile. People need to learn that there is more to life then sex.Spiritually speaking, why do people assume that we as humans have no self-control?
I don't believe that. I think the people who link celibacy to child molestation do so because they are laboring under the misconception that gay men are more likely to be pedophiles - which is not true. They think that a man who has no sexual outlet (and is most likely gay) will eventually snap and take advantage of the nearest thing which just may happen to be an altar boy.
Personally, I don't doubt that there are many people who are capable of take a vow of chastity and keeping to it. But I think it would be a struggle for the average person. Most people would break it by having sex with an adult though as most people do not have a mental illness that makes them want to have sex with young children.
I believe people are responsible for their own behavior. If you rape a person (any person) it is your doing, not the fault of some religious vow.
Because evidence has proven otherwise. You just pointed out 2 incidences which time and time again have shown that there is no self-control among those groups. Also, the number of children born to single mothers shows that women should exercise more self control and try sleeping with and getting pregnant by men that they are married to. If we as humans continue to exhibit behavior that suggests a lack of self-control, then people will assume that we as humans have none.
Whatever innate qualities and attributes humanity has, we must be educated to channel these qualities and attributes in ways that will benefit humanity. Without exception, we all need an educator. Who is the most perfectly suited to educate humanity? Those universal divine educators, the number of whom can be counted on both hands, and who are the true educators of humanity, that have appeared throughout history, have exerted an influence beyond that of any other historical phenomenon. These universal divine educators have included Abraham, Krishna, Moses, Zoraster, Buddha, Christ, Muhammad, and today the Promised One of All Ages is Baha'u'llah.
Most people not all of course are unwilling to accept responsibility for there own behavior and make excuses for behavior that they are in many cases guilty of, being done by some one else.Such as when a Priest or school teacher is found out they will self righteously claim the Priest was Gay or because he was Celibate and the Teacher because she or He was surrounded by little Children and one of them caught there eye of affection and the teacher's is excused because they were in love with the student. So this all to me makes Christ words all the more usable ';Judge not less you be Judged also.
spiritually speaking, why do you ask??
PEOPLE want to be their OWN gods (priest, satanist, or anyone in between) and define their OWN standard of righteousness... God is making HIS point since they don't want to submit to HIS righteousness.... how do you like the condition of the world?????
People like to stereotype groups to which they do not belong by pointing out the misbehavior or a few people in those groups. It makes them feel superior.
I would imagine that it's because there seems to be so much evidence which supports the notion.
that isnt me doing that..
um evidence and payoff
I think many say that because they dont want to take responsibility of their actions. Saying that everyone needs sex is a lie.Many many people live happy celibate lives and are not missing anything. Also just to point out that being celibate does not make one a pedophile. People need to learn that there is more to life then sex.Spiritually speaking, why do people assume that we as humans have no self-control?
I don't believe that. I think the people who link celibacy to child molestation do so because they are laboring under the misconception that gay men are more likely to be pedophiles - which is not true. They think that a man who has no sexual outlet (and is most likely gay) will eventually snap and take advantage of the nearest thing which just may happen to be an altar boy.
Personally, I don't doubt that there are many people who are capable of take a vow of chastity and keeping to it. But I think it would be a struggle for the average person. Most people would break it by having sex with an adult though as most people do not have a mental illness that makes them want to have sex with young children.
I believe people are responsible for their own behavior. If you rape a person (any person) it is your doing, not the fault of some religious vow.
Because evidence has proven otherwise. You just pointed out 2 incidences which time and time again have shown that there is no self-control among those groups. Also, the number of children born to single mothers shows that women should exercise more self control and try sleeping with and getting pregnant by men that they are married to. If we as humans continue to exhibit behavior that suggests a lack of self-control, then people will assume that we as humans have none.
Whatever innate qualities and attributes humanity has, we must be educated to channel these qualities and attributes in ways that will benefit humanity. Without exception, we all need an educator. Who is the most perfectly suited to educate humanity? Those universal divine educators, the number of whom can be counted on both hands, and who are the true educators of humanity, that have appeared throughout history, have exerted an influence beyond that of any other historical phenomenon. These universal divine educators have included Abraham, Krishna, Moses, Zoraster, Buddha, Christ, Muhammad, and today the Promised One of All Ages is Baha'u'llah.
Most people not all of course are unwilling to accept responsibility for there own behavior and make excuses for behavior that they are in many cases guilty of, being done by some one else.Such as when a Priest or school teacher is found out they will self righteously claim the Priest was Gay or because he was Celibate and the Teacher because she or He was surrounded by little Children and one of them caught there eye of affection and the teacher's is excused because they were in love with the student. So this all to me makes Christ words all the more usable ';Judge not less you be Judged also.
spiritually speaking, why do you ask??
PEOPLE want to be their OWN gods (priest, satanist, or anyone in between) and define their OWN standard of righteousness... God is making HIS point since they don't want to submit to HIS righteousness.... how do you like the condition of the world?????
People like to stereotype groups to which they do not belong by pointing out the misbehavior or a few people in those groups. It makes them feel superior.
I would imagine that it's because there seems to be so much evidence which supports the notion.
that isnt me doing that..
um evidence and payoff
I just got off the birth control pill, no period and my doctor did a pregnancy test and it was negative.?
I don't know what's going on? I was on the pill for 2 and a half years and not sure if this is normal after getting off the pill. Please help?I just got off the birth control pill, no period and my doctor did a pregnancy test and it was negative.?
You've been supressing your own natural hormonal cycle for 2 1/2 years, it's going to take a while for it to re-establish itself into the regular monthly pattern. It can take up to a year to do that, and meanwhile you will just have to be patient. Some people rebound quickly, within a month or so- but that's not that common. Most take somewhere around 6 months, some even longer. All you can do is wait, and test if you are concerned. You can ovulate at any point, and will do so before the period happens. The longer you take the pill as a rule, the longer it takes for the body to reset. You are perfectly normal, and just need to be a little more patient with your body, that's all.I just got off the birth control pill, no period and my doctor did a pregnancy test and it was negative.?
This is very normal. The same thing happened to me, so I spoke to my gynecologist about it. Your body is not used to not receiving hormones every day, and it needs some time to acclimate. Last time I went off the pill, it took me 3 months to get a real period, and still it wasn't regular for a while after that. It doesn't mean you're infertile or anything, so make sure you use protection if you don't want to become pregnant.
I hope you find that reassuring!
This is completely normal and your doctor should have told you so. When you stop taking the pill, it can take a long time to get your normal cycle going again. When I stopped a couple years ago, it took 4 months to get my period.
thars normal give it a few months then dont worry about getting pregnant just have a good time it will happen before you know it
It can take all the way up to a year when getting off some type of birth controls to get your period back. You can still get pregnant even though your period is absent.
its nothing. youre period is late, no big deal. it happens. it takes time for your body to readapt itself after having been on the pill for so long. xox
yes it is normal until your cycles catch up
periods fluctuate for a lot of reasons, especially when you change your chemistry by getting on or off the pill.
oh and it could also be that youre very out of shape, which is unhealthy and has very bad impacts on your life.
Its funny how people on here ask questions about how to control your weight, ITS CALLED GETTING OFF YOUR COMPUTER. LOSING SERIOUS WEIGHT IS ONLY DONE BY CHANGING YOUR SEDIMENTARY LIFESTYLE ewwwww
You've been supressing your own natural hormonal cycle for 2 1/2 years, it's going to take a while for it to re-establish itself into the regular monthly pattern. It can take up to a year to do that, and meanwhile you will just have to be patient. Some people rebound quickly, within a month or so- but that's not that common. Most take somewhere around 6 months, some even longer. All you can do is wait, and test if you are concerned. You can ovulate at any point, and will do so before the period happens. The longer you take the pill as a rule, the longer it takes for the body to reset. You are perfectly normal, and just need to be a little more patient with your body, that's all.I just got off the birth control pill, no period and my doctor did a pregnancy test and it was negative.?
This is very normal. The same thing happened to me, so I spoke to my gynecologist about it. Your body is not used to not receiving hormones every day, and it needs some time to acclimate. Last time I went off the pill, it took me 3 months to get a real period, and still it wasn't regular for a while after that. It doesn't mean you're infertile or anything, so make sure you use protection if you don't want to become pregnant.
I hope you find that reassuring!
This is completely normal and your doctor should have told you so. When you stop taking the pill, it can take a long time to get your normal cycle going again. When I stopped a couple years ago, it took 4 months to get my period.
thars normal give it a few months then dont worry about getting pregnant just have a good time it will happen before you know it
It can take all the way up to a year when getting off some type of birth controls to get your period back. You can still get pregnant even though your period is absent.
its nothing. youre period is late, no big deal. it happens. it takes time for your body to readapt itself after having been on the pill for so long. xox
yes it is normal until your cycles catch up
periods fluctuate for a lot of reasons, especially when you change your chemistry by getting on or off the pill.
oh and it could also be that youre very out of shape, which is unhealthy and has very bad impacts on your life.
Its funny how people on here ask questions about how to control your weight, ITS CALLED GETTING OFF YOUR COMPUTER. LOSING SERIOUS WEIGHT IS ONLY DONE BY CHANGING YOUR SEDIMENTARY LIFESTYLE ewwwww
Is it true that God has no control over this world and only can control the afterlife?
WRONG HE STOPPED WW2...angels were seen in the sky..but HE IS ALLOWING SATAN to run this world for awhile so we learn that satans way is a mess!!!!!!!!!1Is it true that God has no control over this world and only can control the afterlife?
I don't know, but we can say for certain that if he did do anything in the universe, we haven't collected any evidence of him doing it.Is it true that God has no control over this world and only can control the afterlife?
Afterlife? Ask any dead person how they are enjoying their afterlife.
God is a fictional character...so nothing is TRUE or not TRUE about him.
God willed that man should be left in the hand of his own counsel.
AAAAAAA MY NIPPLES THEY HURT THEY HURT WHEN I TWIST THEM
No
quick turn your nipples the other way! it might hurt less...
Of course not! That wouldn't be logical, would it?coupons
I don't know, but we can say for certain that if he did do anything in the universe, we haven't collected any evidence of him doing it.Is it true that God has no control over this world and only can control the afterlife?
Afterlife? Ask any dead person how they are enjoying their afterlife.
God is a fictional character...so nothing is TRUE or not TRUE about him.
God willed that man should be left in the hand of his own counsel.
AAAAAAA MY NIPPLES THEY HURT THEY HURT WHEN I TWIST THEM
No
quick turn your nipples the other way! it might hurt less...
Of course not! That wouldn't be logical, would it?
Is it true that God has no control over this world and only can control the afterlife?
WRONG HE STOPPED WW2...angels were seen in the sky..but HE IS ALLOWING SATAN to run this world for awhile so we learn that satans way is a mess!!!!!!!!!1Is it true that God has no control over this world and only can control the afterlife?
I don't know, but we can say for certain that if he did do anything in the universe, we haven't collected any evidence of him doing it.Is it true that God has no control over this world and only can control the afterlife?
Afterlife? Ask any dead person how they are enjoying their afterlife.
God is a fictional character...so nothing is TRUE or not TRUE about him.
God willed that man should be left in the hand of his own counsel.
AAAAAAA MY NIPPLES THEY HURT THEY HURT WHEN I TWIST THEM
No
quick turn your nipples the other way! it might hurt less...
Of course not! That wouldn't be logical, would it?
I don't know, but we can say for certain that if he did do anything in the universe, we haven't collected any evidence of him doing it.Is it true that God has no control over this world and only can control the afterlife?
Afterlife? Ask any dead person how they are enjoying their afterlife.
God is a fictional character...so nothing is TRUE or not TRUE about him.
God willed that man should be left in the hand of his own counsel.
AAAAAAA MY NIPPLES THEY HURT THEY HURT WHEN I TWIST THEM
No
quick turn your nipples the other way! it might hurt less...
Of course not! That wouldn't be logical, would it?
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